serious relationship

I will not lie to you. When it comes to dating, looks and wegiht are very important. You can have all the self esteem in the world, but if the guy/girl you like isn\'t attracted to your looks/ body type, it won\'t make one bit of difference. We humans are funny that way. We are attracted to what we are attracted to, and there isn\'t much we can do about it. Getting back to your original question though, I believe the reason people say, Have more confidence. is because someone who is secure and confident usually doesn\'t ask questions about wegiht or height. I think people just assume that you are insecure, because you have ask the questions. Assumptions are never a good thing, though. Good luck on reaching your target wegiht. For some people it can be a constant and uphill battle, that is very frustrating.